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Yet the feelings of satisfaction and security that most children derive from interacting with peers outweigh periodic problems. For a number of children, however, peer relations are persistently problematic.
Some children are actively rejected by peers. Others are simply ignored, or neglected. It even appears that some popular children have many friends but nevertheless feel alone and unhappy. Children who are unable to form close or satisfying relationships with peers should be of concern to parents and teachers alike.
For one thing, these children miss out on opportunities to learn social skills that will be important throughout their lives. Especially critical are the skills needed to initiate and maintain social relationships and to resolve social conflicts, including communication, compromise, and tact Asher and others Children who lack ongoing peer involvements also may miss opportunities to build a sense of social self-confidence.
These children may develop little faith in their own abilities to achieve interpersonal goals and, thus, are easily overwhelmed by the normal ups and downs of social interaction. Finally, children without satisfying friendships may suffer from painful feelings of isolation Asher and others School may be an unpleasant place for the children.
They may ultimately become truant or drop out altogether Kupersmidt Or, in their search for a sense of group belonging, the children may become vulnerable to the influence of delinquent or drug-abusing peers Isaacs As adults become aware of children with significant peer relationship problems, their concern should focus on why such problems are occurring.
Social Behavior Some children behave in an aggressive or disruptive manner and, hence, are rejected by peers.
Other children withdraw from peer interactions and, in this way, limit their ability to gain acceptance and friendship Coie and Kupersmidt ; Dodge Each type of ineffective social behavioral pattern can stem from different root causes.
One possible cause is a lack of knowledge about effective interaction strategies. Children who are anxious or fearful about peer relations are unlikely to behave in an effective manner. Academic problems also can contribute to ineffective social behavior.
Children who cannot engage themselves with classroom work assignments often disrupt and irritate their peers Burton in press.
Differentness Similarity fosters social acceptance. Conversely, children tend to encounter social rejection when they are perceived to be dissimilar from their peers. This may occur when children are of a different ethnic group or sex, are physically unattractive or handicapped, or are newcomers to their classrooms Asher and others For example, children of divorcing parents may act out feelings of anger at school, eliciting rejection from peers in the process.
Children with family problems, such as parental alcoholism, may be reluctant to bring friends home, avoiding close friendships as a result. Reputation Even if children overcome the circumstances that originally led them to experience peer problems, a reputation as a social outcast is extremely difficult to change.
Children require help from adults if they are to overcome serious peer relationship problems. The most successful helping strategies are matched to the specific needs of the children involved. Social Skills Training Children whose behavior leads to social rejection often need to learn new interpersonal skills.
Intervention for Related Problems When peer problems co-occur with serious academic problems, children may need intensive academic intervention if they are to become accepted members of their classroom groups Coie and Krehbiel Nonthreatening Social Experiences Large groups can be threatening to children who lack self-confidence.
Shy children may therefore benefit from opportunities to interact with peers in small groups. Parents can encourage shy children to invite classmates over one at a time for special activities.
Or shy children can be encouraged to develop outside interests, like music or art, that will provide a natural basis for interacting with other children. Cooperative Classroom Projects Cooperative group projects can foster peer acceptance of children who are trying to improve their social reputations, including children who are seen as different by their classmates.
Under this scheme, teachers assign interesting tasks to small work groups. The group members must work cooperatively to achieve the tasks. In so doing, they must interact with peers they would typically avoid and often discover new bases for liking them Bierman and Furman ; Isaacs Some children may be contented with few friends.
Some popular children may have such high expectations that they never feel socially successful.Communicate respectfully with your adult children. After many years of making decisions and providing authoritarian guidance, you might find it difficult to relinquish your parental role for the more mature relationship of parent-adult child.
Unit 1–1 Communication and Professional Relationships with Children, Young People and Adults - The importance of effective communication in developing positive relationships with children, young people and adults The importance of developing good relationships with children, young people and adults alike cannot be stressed enough.
Dual relationships: If you had a personal relationship with a client before becoming the client’s service provider, realize that you must use your professional judgment when interacting with the client in social settings. Pay particular attention to the client’s confidentiality as well as his/her physical and emotional security.
Although most parents and adult children experience at least a little tension, Birditt found that some topics were more harmful than others to parent-child relationships. Being able to build positive relationships with others helps children and young people to gain the most from being in school and is important to ensure the communication of information between children and the adults responsible for them.
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